Becoming Kings

This is why you don’t live with intention.

Life often feels like a grand paradox. Most of us dream of a fulfilled, intentional life. Yet, we frequently find ourselves succumbing to instant gratification, losing sight of our goals and aspirations. Our choices then reflect our immediate desires, rather than those long-term aspirations. 

However, the road to success is seldom comfortable. It requires conscious decision-making, embracing discomfort, and quite often, making sacrifices to delay gratification. And understanding how these small decisions add up helps show you an objective reality

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I discuss redefining your comfort zone, why every decision involves some level of sacrifice, and the secret to taking calculated risks that bring immense rewards. If you want to achieve your goals badly enough, you can take action today. You can start by giving this episode a full listen.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

• Delayed gratification. (0:46)
• Every decision requires sacrifice. (3:37)
• Money doesn’t bring us happiness. So now what? (7:03)
• Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. (10:38)
• Be wary of the dimming of the light. (13:53)

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The need for certainty.

Life is filled with uncertainties. Yet, amidst all the chaos, we yearn for some predictability.  A safe space where the ground doesn’t shake, allowing us to build ourselves up. Often this need for stability is about comfort. Yet it should act as the cornerstone of our ambitions — be it in fitness, relationships, or business. 

This predictability doesn’t limit us. Rather, it liberates us.  It provides the freedom to focus on our goals, reassured that the fundamentals are taken care of. A strong foundational routine enables us to stay disciplined and direct our efforts toward our goals. 

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I share the reasoning behind our craving for certainty, how an orderly life contributes to our health, and the sense of pride that comes from owning your Inner Kingdom. And it’s this self-confidence that will drive every decision you make to be positive. Tune in if your inner world feels in disarray or you’re craving some sort of change.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

• Did you miss me? (0:46)
• Why we all need certainty. (6:29)
• Robots are the best. (12:32)
• Staying disciplined with your health. (18:49)
• Taking pride in your Inner Kingdom. (24:14)
• Being a man who is proud of who he is. (29:09)

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Distraction is your greatest enemy.

Technology makes it all too easy to fall into the trap of distraction. Each scroll, click, swipe feels good. The allure of instant gratification pulls us away from our true ambitions. 

Is it serving you? Or is it stealing away your potential, fragmenting your focus, and leaving you a shell of the exceptional individuals we could be?

Imagine being so devoted to your mission that distractions lose their charm. Harnessing the same energy you’ve been pouring into scrolling, and directing it toward improving yourself daily. And as you push forward, you eventually reach a singularity. You embody unrecognizable excellence. 

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I sit down with Donovan Owens to discuss finding a purpose that compels you to success, becoming an unrecognizable man, and keeping yourself accountable. Tune in to hear Donovan share his inspiring journey to find purpose, framework for success, and overcoming resistance.

In this episode you’ll learn about…

• Unrecognizable Excellence. (2:48)
• Searching for an identity. (10:07)
• Distraction is life’s biggest villain. (17:57)
• Coming clean & being transparent. (28:09)
• Building accountability & a framework for success. (34:54)
• Diving deep into improving relationships. (42:20)

Connect with John Henry Parker

• Donovan’s Facebook
• Donovan’s Instagram
• The Mental Shift program

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Finding joy on the side of trauma.

When we face a seemingly insurmountable obstacle, it can feel debilitating. Often it makes you feel powerless, scared, and confused. Trauma has this effect of leaving deep scars, yet every scar comes with the wisdom of a story. 

Trauma’s emotional energy is often perceived as harmful and disruptive. In truth, it’s transformative. 

One universal law states that energy cannot be created nor destroyed — only converted. Like a blacksmith repurposing “used” tools and forging a state-of-the-art weapon, you can channel your trauma into motivation toward your purpose and vision. 

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I sit down with John Henry Parker to discuss his transformative relationship with gangs, the military, and psychedelics. For John, predetermined conclusions about trauma and apathy drove him down the wrong path. If you grapple with negative self-beliefs, this episode is a must-listen.

In this episode you’ll learn about…

• Wise wisdom. (1:39)
• The strength of a powerful matriarch. (10:21)
• The healing of mother ayahuasca. (23:03)
• Arming yourself with motivation from growth. (35:42)
•  Unburdening yourself. (48:30)
• Divorcing yourself from toxic relationships. (56:51)

Connect with John Henry Parker

• Purchase John Henry’s latest book: Be the Dawn in the Darkness
• John Henry on LinkedIn
• John Henry on IG
• John Henry on FB
• John Henry’s Website

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Change the unchangeable.

In society, we’re often told some things are just the way they are. These societal norms are what everyone else follows. And that leads many men to believe some circumstances never change. 

The truth is our minds and reality are highly adaptable and easily influenced. Each time you read, listen to others, or even think, you rewire your brain. And if you think negatively about yourself, others, and the world, that negative thought process will only get stronger. 

You have the power to redefine the status quo. The journey starts within yourself. 
In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I sit down with Johnny Elsasser to discuss what all elite men do daily. Together we explore how to design your inner world, why challenging societal norms will give a deep, palpable purpose, and a man’s search for truth.

In this episode you’ll learn about…

• Second time is a charm! (0:46)
• Laying the firm foundation. (9:57)
• Understanding the root problem. (20:37)
• The search for truth. (30:16)
• Foundational skills make the elite, Elite. (38:17)
• Don’t do what you normally do. Do the work! (46:07)

Connect with Johnny Elsasser

• Purchase Design The Man Within

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Lack motivation? Do this.

We’ve all experienced those moments where motivation seems to vanish. One day you work extra hard in the gym, and the next day the fire within dwindles, leaving you with a shadow of your true self. In these moments, we must decide whether to stay complacent, trapped in the small version of ourselves, or break free and unleash our inner lion. 

The lion isn’t the fastest, largest, or smartest animal — yet it’s known as the king of the jungle. Take a moment to think about how this analogy translates to our personal lives. 

Are the most successful people you know the best-looking, most genetically gifted? Or are the reasons they’re successful intangible? Like a mindset plus execution. 

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I share the technique I (and Navy SEALs) use to snap out of unmotivated states, tapping into the lion’s mindset. Mental ruts can be dangerous in the long run. Tune in to create positive habits that compound and break unmotivated states.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

• Focusing on leveling up your lifestyle. (0:46)
• The lion’s mentality. (4:49)
• Hunting and killing the doubter. (9:21)
• Not “feeling” motivated. (12:54)
• How bad habits create compound interest. (16:19)

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Could you be confusing motion with action?

When you’re starting a new habit or venture, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement. You start researching, planning, and imagining the results you’ll achieve. While these preparatory tasks might seem valuable, they can often be deceptive — leaving you with little progress.

Real action pulls you toward your goals like a magnet. It’s taking daily steps to hit actionable, achievable metrics like 30 reps per muscle group or 20 cold calls.  Or feeling the satisfaction of accomplishment and the drive to continue moving forward. 

So what’s the key to bridging the gap between planning and executing? 

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I reveal the difference between going through the motions and concrete action, something I learned from the bestseller Atomic Habits. Most of us go through life without a second thought, mindlessly drifting. Tune in to this episode where I share James Clear’s method for building rock-solid habits.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

• Atomic Habits. (0:46)
• Unlearning the 8 hour work day standard. (4:57)
• Enrolling integrous accountability buddies. (10:09)
• Make your habits attainable and simple. (15:02)
• Lean into what you really need to work on! (18:53)

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Experts agree this is the way to break “bad” habits.

When you’re stuck in a place of comfort, routine, and ritual, feeling safe and secure is easy. Because beneath that sense of stability often lies a yearning for something more, something extraordinary. 

Do you feel happy or fulfilled in these cycles of stagnation? Or do you feel the need for growth, change, and ambition? 

For most of us, it’s natural to turn inward during these times. We analyze our thoughts and emotions, believing they’re the root cause of our plateau. However, what if the secret to overcoming this impasse was an external problem rather than an internal one? 

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I dive deep into the idea of comfort zones, stagnation, and mental deadlocks. Acknowledging that you feel lackluster or stuck in your current situation is the first step. When you listen to this episode, you’ll uncover the “external switch” experts recommend to shatter your wave of stagnation.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

• Do you have big dreams? (0:46)
• Upsetting Stagnation. (4:02)
• The way we rationalize away our dreams. (11:19)
• Allowing your dreams to grow. (14:47)

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Here’s what your life could be…

Imagine where you honored every commitment to yourself. Every promise made, you kept. Each wave of ambition capitalized, and each goal attained. Hitting the gym relentlessly, sinking into meditation, or finishing your book once and for all. Can you see it? 

That awe-inspiring life isn’t just a mere fantasy. It’s not an unreachable ideal, locked away to never be seen. Only one obstacle blocks your path between you and a life filled with purpose 

Resistance — the evolutionary biology keeping us complacent and comfortable. And in the modern age, that programming is both unnecessary and conquerable. 

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I share an excerpt from one of my all-time favorite books: The War of Art by Steven Pressfield. If you don’t understand resistance, it will bury you. Give today’s episode a listen and learn the dangerous nature of resistance plus how to defeat it.

In this episode, you’ll learn…

• Your ability to get stuff done. (0:46)
• You think Resistance isn’t real? (6:38)
• Resistance to grow. (14:10)
• Self sovereignty. (20:32)
• Resistance is out to kill. (27:03)

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How to maintain consistency in your habits.

We know we should go to the gym, begin reading that book, start a side hustle, or eat more vegetables, yet we don’t do it. Maybe the time isn’t right or something else is “going on” today… So you wait and say you’ll start next week. 

Think about it: this resistance is so powerful that it stops you from getting what you want. How can you want something so badly, and continue to convince yourself not to start every day?

In today’s episode of the Becoming Kings Podcast, I share the exact technique I use to overcome the feeling of avoiding what you “should” do versus actually doing the activity. Most of us wait until the last minute to start or never start at all. Right now is the time to stop waiting, and start doing. 

In this episode, you’ll learn…

• “Knowing” is not enough. (0:46)
• Intensity for change is difficult to maintain. (6:10)
• Do you struggle to be productive? (13:46)
• Not doing what you know you need to do. (19:58)
• Creating “Artificial Consequences”. (26:38)

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